Life Balance: What goes up, must come down… (but will go up again!)


Balance is one of the keys to living a great life. Ensuring we are not continually too high or too low is in itself is a balancing act.

Low days happen no matter how smiley, happy and positive you are. In life, we are meant to be challenged, it’s how we learn and grow.

As party queens, we can easily overdo it at the weekend.

You may find that you are out loving life with friends, singing, dancing, and drinking until the early hours.

Life is great in that moment, but the next day you often feel different… you maybe tired, agitated, low energy, even emotional.

It’s how you deal with the low in your mind that counts.

Are you swept away with drama, panic or sadness thinking it’s the end of the world?

Or do you allow yourself to focus on gratitude instead, and remind yourself you wont feel this way forever?

As humans we have chemicals working inside us to keep us balanced.

The saying “What goes up must come down” isn’t just a cliché – it’s how we are designed.

It’s called homeostasis.

If we get too excited and high our nervous system will bring us down and if we get too low, the same system will work to bring us up to balance again.

Think back to a time when you were really sad or angry. While in that feeling, did you ever feel like it would never end – that everything was terrible and you would never be happy again?

I’m sure on the other end of the scale you have felt so happy you could cry tears of joy and nothing could ever touch you or make you feel sad again.

I love Abraham Hick’s quote:

“Staying positive doesn’t mean you have to be happy all the time. It means that even on the hard days you know there are better ones to come”

Lots of personal development tells you to always be positive. But this can actually be draining.

So called ‘negative’ emotions are there to serve us – to show us what to work on. It’s not wise to suppress them. Feel them – and know that they are part of the human experience.

Bad days, sad days and even terrible days happen – and when they do, you need to know how to deal with them.

Here is what I recommend:

1- Allow the feelings

When you are having a bad day, don’t bottle up your feelings allow what ever it is you are feeling to come out.

Scream with frustration if you want to.

Cry tears if you need to.

Talk to someone you trust about how you are feeling, or

Lock yourself away from the world and be in the feeling allowing itt to have its time.

2- Accept the feelings

While going through this process, make sure you remind yourself this is not forever, these feelings or this situation won’t last, things will change and it will get better.

Tell yourself this as much as you can. Time is a great healer and this feeling may not even last the day

3- Take action

After giving yourself time to allow the feelings and let them out however you choose, take some action to help you move out of the low feelings.
Life rewards action and you can always think of something you can do.

It may be to reach out to someone who can help

Look for resources on line to help.

Go for a walk in nature.

Listen to your favorite songs that lift you, or

Watch an inspirational documentary or movie.

Do what you need to do to get through the low times. I can assure you, they do not last.

Allow feelings to have their time if you need to, but know in yourself they are not here to last. It’s part of the process of knowing what you want your life to be like.

When enough time has passed, look for things to do to lift yourself back up.

You may find you are stronger now and have more clarity on a situation and can deal with it better.

I’ll leave you with another quote I also love from the movie ‘The Crow’

“It can’t rain all the time “

There is always sunshine after the rain.

Keep Sparkling Party Girls

Lauren Victoria Ellingham



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